What are the signs of domestic abuse?

These are common signs that domestic abuse is taking place:

Destructive criticism and verbal abuse:

  • Shouting
  • Mocking
  • Accusing
  • Name calling
  • Verbally threatening

Pressure tactics:

  • Sulking
  • Threatening to withhold money
  • Disconnect the phone
  • Take the car away
  • Commit suicide
  • Take the children away
  • Report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with their demands regarding the children
  • Lying to your friends and family about you
  • Telling you that you have no choice in any decisions


  • Persistently putting you down in front of other people
  • Not listening or responding when you talk
  • Interrupting your telephone calls
  • Taking money from you without asking
  • Refusing to help with childcare or housework

Breaking trust:

  • Lying to you
  • Withholding information from you
  • Being Jealous
  • Having other relationships
  • Breaking promises and shared agreements.


  • Monitoring or blocking your telephone calls
  • Telling you where you can and cannot go
  • Preventing you from seeing friends and family


  • Following you
  • Checking up on you
  • Opening your mail
  • Repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you
  • Embarrassing you in public 


  • Making angry gestures
  • Using physical size to intimidate
  • Shouting at you
  • Destroying your possessions
  • Breaking things
  • Punching walls
  • Wielding a knife or a gun
  • Threatening to kill or harm you and/or the children or pets

Do you need to talk to someone about domestic abuse?

Call our 24/7 helpline on 0300 0120154 or email us.

If you are in immediate danger call 999.

There is no excuse for domestic abuse.

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